2016… Okpas

GOALS

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Okpas ‘jojo’ Enapson

2016……what can I say

It seems like yesterday I wrote a piece about 2015

Bolt speed 2016… I just blinked and it’s the 31st day of December, 2016.

Despite the incredible speed of the year, a lot transpired. A lot made us sad and I must say, it seems like very few things made us thoroughly happy this year.

Yeah yeah, that was a rather bleak thing to say – forgetting the numerous blessings within the enigmatic 2016.

So let me tell you a bit about 2016 from my perspective

Well remember my excerpt from last year right? particularly facing the challenges of private practice in Nigeria. Well in line with that, I had to work and hustle like hell. I pushed myself to unimaginable limits. I had to inculcate a very annoying work ethic and of course (as predicted) I had little or no time for friends I would ordinarily have loved to see on a very regular basis. I hate this side of me and who I’m becoming. It’s true what they say, growing up sucks! (lol).

Anyway, I’m so grateful to God. There’s nothing I love better than having a schedule to go through on a daily basis. Truth is the greater the tasks, the sweeter the income (this quote is mine lol)

Hmm 2016…

I must say maturity is something 2016 brought my way. Patience, tolerance and understanding…I’m not saying I wasn’t my usual self sometimes exploding, especially in traffic (lol). I’m just saying, I guess when you get older, you start hearing that voice that says “yo, chill it’s not worth it” and just like that, I let it go no matter what. Hehe I remember one episode alongside Barr. Barth at the Life Camp Police Station (call me for the full gist lol) boy! I can ginger sha lol.

This confusing 2016…

Well I must speak about the losses within the year. Prince, Mohammed Ali and so many others. Wow 2016 took the icons and the normal. Syria, Nigeria, Paris, Germany are just a few names that really suffered at the hands of terrorism this year. Well, with God all things are possible. I actually tried to stop listening/watching the news this year.So much hate in the world.

Closing this chapter now, this piece is meant to be a happy one.

So my baby sister traveled for her masters this year. Mr. tough guy writing this couldn’t hold it in. He cried like an idiot at the airport. Hahaha I miss the little rascal so much. Thing is, we’ve always been a very closely knitted bunch in my family. We were raised to always do everything together and this is one exquisite attribute of my family so having our youngest, our baby so far away is really scary but again, God is involved.

  • A quote from one of our family portraits makes so much sense to me now

“one ship sails west, another sails east

Under the selfsame wind that blows

It’s not the gale

But the sail that decides where they go!”

Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year Chocho (talk to you later)

And yes……Uncle Tom Miachi. The perfect gentleman. May God continue to comfort the Miachi’s and my family. Looking at pictures of my Dad and Uncle Tom always puts a huge smile on my face despite the endless pain in my heart. It was painful three years ago, It was painful this year too. So my response? I wake up every day and work so hard in honor of their memories. (Kings forever in our hearts RIP Dad, RIP Uncle Tom).

Damn I’m already drained.

I think 2016 was quite dry and just as uninteresting as this piece of mine lol

Recession, bank restrictions etc  . A lot really killed the hopes of Nigerians but remembering all the negatives, I’m no fool. Amidst it all, more miracles were recorded this year. Personally,I traveled a lot this year and that is certainly no cheap miracle : Preservation, provision ,protection and promotion are just the least of the numerous miracles we all ought to be thankful for.

I hope you celebrated Christmas with love and compassion regardless of the economy and I hope you are enthused about the New Year.

Make wishes

Set goals

Have New Year resolutions please, it’s always been tradition to have those and I believe in them.

Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book, by all means, write a good one.

Be optimistic, take risks.

Spend more time with your parents, friends and entire family.

Pray, pray some more and pray a lot more!

Forgive and forget.

Dream and never give up

Remember that popular poem?

 

“Whether the weather be fine

Or whether the weather be not

Whether the weather be cold

Or whether the weather be hot

We’ll weather the weather

Whatever the weather

Whether we like it or not”

 

It is my prayer that we all get to do this again next year and I promise a better happier brighter piece

 

Happy New Year

And Godspeed.

 

 

Okpas ‘Jojo’ Enapson

31-12-2016

11.27pm.

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2016…Ekos

DETERMINATION

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This year came with some great new bits, I finally started school, I learnt a little bit of a new language, I learnt how to live on my own for some time and we had new additions to our family.

This year, life also hit me hard, I lost my father, my first love. I have had to go through different processes of grieving. It was difficult trying to process my loss and continue with life at the same time, But I got to learn that life indeed goes on, little by little.

The only thing you have after you’ve lost a loved one are the memories you have made with them. They stay with you forever. I learned we should always show people who mean a lot to us that we care about them by giving them our time, resources, and so much more, because life is too short.

I learned more about empathy – I shouldn’t minimize people’s grief by comparing it with other people’s sad life events, that I should empathize with friends even when they get a little scratch without making statements like “your own is even small”.

I also learned to say “no” more often. Making myself happy isn’t wrong, and knowing my own true definition of happiness for myself (which for now, apart from the deep stuff we all know is lying on my bed and watching movies I like) is important. I learned I shouldn’t let other people define it for me.

Most of all, I learned about family and real friendship. I learned how important it is to be there for your friends and family when they’re going through a tough or happy time. I used to think a little text from me wouldn’t matter to some people but now I know it does. For the sad times, we all do not like sad events, neither do we know what to say when sad things happen but I now know it is important to reach out no matter what (FYI, text may also include Facebook messages, DMs or Instagram messages, LOL).

In retrospect, by this time last year, I had all kinds of positive feelings about conquering the world and trying my possible best to do so, but I also learnt that sometimes, it is okay to step back from the struggle of being a better version of yourself, relax your brain, have a moment alone and come back stronger. No, it is not laziness, it is simply human not to be a “go-getter” all the time.

In conclusion, I learned the importance of family (it may mean different things to different people), recognizing real and true friendship, meeting up with obligations and taking time out of the constant struggle of life to be better and perfect to relax and have time for the simple things in life.

And yes, I am thankful to God for his abundant gifts of love, knowledge, joy and peace. He indeed has wonderful plans ahead for us in 2017!