This year came with some great new bits, I finally started school, I learnt a little bit of a new language, I learnt how to live on my own for some time and we had new additions to our family.
This year, life also hit me hard, I lost my father, my first love. I have had to go through different processes of grieving. It was difficult trying to process my loss and continue with life at the same time, But I got to learn that life indeed goes on, little by little.
The only thing you have after you’ve lost a loved one are the memories you have made with them. They stay with you forever. I learned we should always show people who mean a lot to us that we care about them by giving them our time, resources, and so much more, because life is too short.
I learned more about empathy – I shouldn’t minimize people’s grief by comparing it with other people’s sad life events, that I should empathize with friends even when they get a little scratch without making statements like “your own is even small”.
I also learned to say “no” more often. Making myself happy isn’t wrong, and knowing my own true definition of happiness for myself (which for now, apart from the deep stuff we all know is lying on my bed and watching movies I like) is important. I learned I shouldn’t let other people define it for me.
Most of all, I learned about family and real friendship. I learned how important it is to be there for your friends and family when they’re going through a tough or happy time. I used to think a little text from me wouldn’t matter to some people but now I know it does. For the sad times, we all do not like sad events, neither do we know what to say when sad things happen but I now know it is important to reach out no matter what (FYI, text may also include Facebook messages, DMs or Instagram messages, LOL).
In retrospect, by this time last year, I had all kinds of positive feelings about conquering the world and trying my possible best to do so, but I also learnt that sometimes, it is okay to step back from the struggle of being a better version of yourself, relax your brain, have a moment alone and come back stronger. No, it is not laziness, it is simply human not to be a “go-getter” all the time.
In conclusion, I learned the importance of family (it may mean different things to different people), recognizing real and true friendship, meeting up with obligations and taking time out of the constant struggle of life to be better and perfect to relax and have time for the simple things in life.
And yes, I am thankful to God for his abundant gifts of love, knowledge, joy and peace. He indeed has wonderful plans ahead for us in 2017!